Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Who can stand in this strong wind and remember

Before I had a child I was the one who would so easily--and in my mind it seemed so easy--to mention just let them cry it out or your kid is taking advantage of you or some other strong love statment and then I would go on about how that will help the child later in life yadayada...

Since having Bryn I find myself not wanting him to have a bad day ever or to cry. I want him to be so happy it hurts. Now I hear all of you out there saying that he has to have the bad in order to be normal to be socialized and really to truly be happy. But I must say motherhood is not a very rational beast. Most days I succeed in not going overboard but this is an intense experience. So much more beyond the rehtoric. If you have any stories to share.... I want to gather wisdom for sure.

I used to be respectable and chaste and stable,
but who can stand in this strong wind
and remember those things?
-Rumi

10 comments:

samuru999 said...

Thanks for the visit to my blog!
I am sure Bryn(oh, he is adorable!)
is a happy baby!
How could he not when he has a mom
that wants him to be so happy
it hurts!


Babies do cry though...
Don't worry about that...
just enjoy every precious moment you have together....
before you know... he will be heading off to start his own life!
Take care!

Margie

Jewel Rays said...

hello Pesco Blue,

Thank you for dropping by my blog. :)

I enjoyed reading ya post.

Love this quote.

I used to be respectable and chaste and stable,
but who can stand in this strong wind
and remember those things?
-Rumi


Its really true..:)


Bryn I find myself not wanting him to have a bad day ever or to cry. I want him to be so happy it hurts. Now I hear all of you out there saying that he has to have the bad in order to be normal to be socialized and really to truly be happy.

I think its really mother's nature to not want to see her child get harm. And the first thing she would do is set herself as a guard. i had a thought like that not too long ago about how i am gonna really let go of my own child when i have one. But i realise that what others say is true indeeds. I feel that its so important to sometimes allow them to take their own walks in the journey in life. I believe the hustles and bustles in life will somehow take them to a high level in heart and character as they stroll out. They really need to explore life and through that i believe they will be able to receive the liberty to express themselves better and realise their potential. However, as a mum i believe its just not easy sometimes. but being a great support from beings and sometimes letting go of a child for a while could help him so much. That way you would be a contributing factor and at the same time allowing him to know you are here to pick him up if he falls down. sometimes pain needs to be felt for us to grow up. and i believe that applies to every single person who took the first breath towards life. Its so hard especially when a child is ours. But sometimes a mum, just has to let go of his hands for a while for him to get a taste of life and see he is able sometimes.

i hope i am feeling ya post right.

I am glad you dropped by. a beautiful write up.

Cheers!

Keshi said...

Bryn is a cutey OMG!

hey take it easy...every mother Im sure wud want the best for their child...but bad happens to anyone...and it usually comes with a great lesson...so thats the good again :)

TC
Keshi.

christabelle said...

Bryn is such a cute and adorable baby, i'm sure u'll be sooo proud of him, i think motherhood is really something special, i remember when my sis b/came a mother she just changed, Wow!
I'm happy for u, just do ur best and God will take care of the rest.
I'm so sorry about ur mum, but God knows why I guess, so its ok.

Hey! thanks for coming by my site.

White Magpie said...

Yeah..motherhood takes u to all extremes. haha for wisdom I would suggest some momma and papa blogs..starting with:

http://themadmomma.blogspot.com/

You read Rumi? Awesome!!

Plus Ultra said...

How true.....this is a lovely place to come to!

Pecos Blue said...

Margie,

Thank you, it helps to vent and keeps me stronger.

Jewel rays,

yes you are right just harder to practice than i imagined.

keshi--i know you are right

christabelle-

i know i am changing and i am surprised by how much

Mom101 said...

Oh darlin', letting a child cry isn't letting him have a bad day no more than telling him not to put his finger in the light socket is letting him have a bad day. I can only tell you having gone through the whole cry in the crib bit, that I now have a far more rested, alert, and happy child. I'd say that's worth the 56 minutes of crying it took!

Thanks so much for the nice words over at my place.

iamnasra said...

Great to see you in my humble house...Wow this experience for sure is hard..its easy to be storng when the child is not yours but when you have your own Im not saying we run soft but it kills to know that ur child goes through pain u want be the one to carry their pain or sadness it part of the nature of being a mother...

In my religion we say that heaven is under the feets of mothers. I now understand why

Merryweather said...

Nice blog. I really enjoyed the post: "who can stand in this strong wind and remember" :)